For example, many chase after unavailable love and use addictions to numb the pain.According to Tiny Buddha, In adult relationships, you often end up repeating the dynamic from your relationship with your parents growing up. That can be harmful in many ways. For example, many chase after unavailable love and use addictions to numb the pain. Some people avoid relationships entirely out of fear and ignore the red flags in unhealthy relationships. For some, they feel suffocated and trapped in relationships, but don't think they deserve any better.